You have to understand the historical context. My parents’ generation was generally wary of gay men, probably because of the criminal stigma. Mine was generally accepting enough for me to have an argument in the early 80s with a contemporary who said he didn’t like gays, but throwaway references like Joe’s were so commonplace that nobody really noticed them. My daughter’s (your) generation is very pro-LGBT. There's been a complete change.
This is true. I have 2 good friends. Known both since the 70's. One I knew from school, since 1974. He tried being straight, which was easy, as girls always flocked round him. Mostly one's I really fancied. First girl I ever asked out was only there to be near him! He dropped hints in the form of silly comments, but didn't actually come out until 1984, even to us, his friends. It changed nothing between us, but he still had to be subtle about it, particularly as he was a presenter on a local radio station. Not sure how they'd have handled it "going public"!
The other I've known since 1978, introduced by a mutual friend I'd known since school, who was on an art foundation course with him. He used to tell us tales of heterosexual activity that made me feel wholly inadequate. It was all a front. He was outed by the boyfriend of the first friend I spoke of, (in around 1985) who had seen him at a club with someone he knew to be gay. He apologised for the deception, but we understood, it was a very hard time to be that way inclined, though not as bad as earlier. Do a little research on ace UK record producer Joe Meek, to see how difficult it was in the 1960's, when being framed by the police was only one issue that drove him to suicide, and sadly, murder.
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Re: What Are You Listening To Right Now? - Part 2
« Reply #6841 on: May 1st, 2016, 09:11am »
During my university years, I was in a group of people, two of which were lesbians, living in a relationship, they were hiding. They "came out" during the end of our university years, and were pretty much astounded, that none of us gave a damn.
Nevertheless, social constraints were that strong at that time, that one of the girls got married to a widower, who was 20 years older than her with two kids, who were both in their teenage years. This marriage had been arranged by the girl`s mother, who would refuse to have a lesbian daughter. What would the neighbors say? Would she get a decent job? It was all pretty absurd.
The Godmother of my daughter is a lesbian and definitely the best and closest friend, my wife and me have. It is good, that things have changed to the positive in recent years.